Three Things That Hurt Your Relationship

Relationships are complicated and have lots of moving parts.  However, there are some simple things we should avoid that can make our relationships more complicated.  


  1. Forgetting God’s Goodness

We all get caught up in living life and doing things at a fast pace. We move from event to event, from day to day and week to week without thinking about how good God has been to us.

We look at our circumstances and if they are not Facebook pretty, or Twitter post ready, we don’t deem them worthy of being thankful for them.

It doesn’t take a special event or a surprise celebration to realize God’s goodness in your lives.  When you can touch, see and speak to the people you love, then you are experiencing God’s goodness. When you go on a date of any type with your spouse, you are experiencing God’s goodness.

Even when you are holding your spouse’s hand while they are on their sickbed, you are experiencing God’s goodness.

Psalm 100:5   For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.

  1. Following Your Own Path

Most couples disagreements and fights can be summed up in these words “I WANT MY WAY AND I WANT IT RIGHT NOW!!!!”

When you decide to place our own personal preference and desires about the good of the relationship, you are wrecking your marriage, your relationship with your own hands.

We all like to have things the way that we like them. However, one of the realities of life is that you can’t have your way each and every day. Living with an attitude that says you are entitled will entitle you to be unhappy.

Learn to give and take, learn to smile and appreciate, learn to love and be loved.

Proverbs 3:5-6   Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths

  1. Focusing on Other People’s Relationship at the Expense of Your Relationship

Are you constantly keeping up with people through social media? Do you find yourself texting someone about their relationship and neglecting your own?

Do you look at the relationship that other people have and wish you have what they have? Are you guilty of “relationship envy”?

How do you know that their relationship is better than yours? Are you there when one of them is late and the other is ticked off about it? Do you really think they get along perfectly 24/7?

If their relationship is really better than yours, than you can bet it is because they work at it, and hard. They don’t forget God’s goodness in every area of their lives. They don’t’ forget that their spouse is a good gift from God. They don’t try to have their way most of the time.

If the grass seems greener on the other side, check out the fertilizer that they are using and see if it will work for you.
1 Thessalonians 4:11  and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you


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