Someone once said “The way to cope with the future is to create it.”
While most of us can understand how this “create the future” principle applies to science and medicine, it may not be apparent how it can apply to your relationship.
Most people want the future to just come to them without any planning or working on their part. The only place “success” comes before “work” is in the dictionary.
The way to make the future happen is to create it. You can create it by:
- Get with your spouse/mate and make a list of the things you want in your relationship. Write down the fantastic joy you want in your relationship. Write down the amazing experiences the two of you to share. Be as detail as possible in this step. When you are describing your future relationship don’t use phrases like “I don’t want or I am not putting up with”. Describe everything from a positive point of view.
- Review your list together daily. Make note or celebrate when you see movement or a point is now a reality in your lives.
- Make adjustments if needed. Maybe you thought you were going to create a plan for a monthly vacation. However, the frequency may not be reasonable for your situation so dial it back a little. Instead make it a quarterly vacation. In the end you will still be on vacation together and having more fun than you are having now.
Your current relationship may not be idea today, but with work, love and planning – the future of your relationship can be so much better.
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